Ask for Help

Self sufficiency is an enemy when it causes us to believe we can do everything in our own strength. We were not placed on this Earth to go at it alone. Life revolves around helping one another. We often hesitate to ask others for help because we’re afraid to approach them out of embarrassment or the fear of rejection. There are also times when we wait so long to ask for help, that by the time we do so, the problem has magnified and become more difficult to solve.

Imagine the amount of time you could save by asking for directions at the first sign of being misdirected in your travels. By not doing so, you lengthen the amount of time it would typically take to reach your destination. Asking for help eliminates unnecessary frustration. When you demonstrate the humility to ask for help, you often earn the respect of others. And most importantly, when help is extended, be appreciative of it.

Weighing the Good in a Bad Situation

There is a lesson to be learned from every bad situation you encounter in life and if you consider the lesson alone, you will have already identified the good from which it came. We become fearful and immobile when we focus on the negative aspects of a situation. How much better it is to focus on the positive while trusting the negatives will work itself out.

A positive response transforms every setback into a step forward. Even the worse situations can make us better people. Everything happens for a reason. In order to shape you into the person that you are predestined to be, you must experience certain trials and tribulations. When life seems uncertain and at times uncontrollable, remember that good results come out of tough times.

Acknowledge Your Blessings

Blessings come in many disguises ranging from financial relief to internal healing. Understanding that what you receive doesn’t come from you alone, is the first step in acknowledging your blessings.

A blessing may not always appear in a desired fashion. A blessing could be eliminating someone from your life in order to take you to the next level. Although you may experience pain from the absence of this person, other doors may open to greater opportunities. This doesn’t necessarily mean the blessing will come in the form of another individual, it may come in the form of gaining clarity in your decision making.

Don’t ever become so shallow in your thinking that you overlook your blessings. Remember that having your health and the use of all your senses gives you the ability to produce change in your life. Whether you have acquired much then lost it all, identify what went wrong so the next time it’s presented, you understand how to retain it. Regardless of how the blessings appear, don’t discredit what’s gained from it.


Spirituality is troublesome for many people because of the different beliefs and religions available. We often complicate spirituality with man made rules, yet human spirit is something we all possess. The lack of spiritual insight blinds us to truth and robs us of hope.  Life is interconnected and guided by a higher intelligence. We are given free will to love or not love, to be open-minded or close minded, to hold on to pain or release it and acknowledge the presence of this higher intelligence. 

When you face difficulties that seem insurmountable, remember that spiritual resources are there. Look through eyes of faith. The lessons from the past, the instructions for the present, and the glimpses into the future give us many opportunities to strengthen our faith. Our personal choices are far more effective when they are spiritually inspired. 

Follow Your Dreams

Every person dreams and makes plans for the future, then they work hard to see those dreams and plans come to fruition. Don’t let other’s values and actions dictate your attitude and behavior. This often leads to making wrong decisions out of a desire to please. Take time to think about your dreams and goals, and how they correlate with the important areas of your life.

What works for one, may not be meant for you. People may present you with opportunities that garnered them success, but if you don’t view the opportunity in the same light, you’re wasting their time and yours. Speak up for what you believe in or dislike. In doing so, a person can only respect your wishes. That’s not to say that what you choose to do will always be favorable and in your best interest, but you have to journey down your own path.

Crying Relieves the Heart

Going through rivers of difficulty will either cause you to drown or force you to grow stronger. Some people consider expressing emotions to be a sign of weakness, but failure to express these emotions result in tension being stored within our bodies. We need a relief valve for the heart and one of the purest suppressants is tears.

Rarely do we hear someone say they are more stressed or upset after crying. Emotional tears are a response which only humans have and these tears are a part of the miracle of the human body that we often take for granted. Crying provides a healthy release when done in moderation and helps us recover and go on with life. 

There is a connection between the tears we shed and the priorities in our lives. When our souls cry out to the heart of the Creator, we are sending up silent prayers to bring balance into our lives and provide strength for the journey ahead. It is through these heartfelt tears that our pleas are answered.


Forgiving someone will be one of your greatest challenges in life. It is tempting, especially in an argument, to bring up what one has done in the past. But, in order to truly forgive, you must lay to rest what is not relative today. Retaining anger, resentment, or bitterness stunts your own growth by blurring you to the realities around you and ultimately causing another to suffer behind the emotions you are harboring. Extract the lesson from the event and understand that it is no longer destiny, but history.

Forgiveness is stronger than anger. Sometimes forgiving a personal attack against you shows more strength than lashing out in revenge. When you decide in your heart to forgive someone, the pain you once carried will be lightened and this will allow you to grow in a place that cannot be measured. 

Reason, Season or Lifetime

Throughout our lives we encounter people that play an instrumental role in our development. Our reason people serve a specific purpose and once that purpose is fulfilled, they will depart. Our season people compliment you during a certain period of your life and after you grow out of this period, they no longer compliment you. Our lifetime people are there for the long haul and you ride it out until the end.

When we think of someone being there for a lifetime, our parents, siblings and relatives quickly come to mind. Our friends, acquaintances and companions develop later in our journey. At some point in our lives, every one of these individuals will be called upon to complete their own journey and may leave us with nothing but memories. Some will leave an everlasting impression, while others just a blur. We may face disappointment that some who cross our path choose to leave against our desires, but we must strive to understand the role each person was chosen to fulfill in our lives and learn from it.

Trust Intuition

Intuition is one of the greatest and unexplainable gifts you have. You can choose to ignore it or understand that a greater spirit works through you, often in mysterious ways, but always to your benefit in the long run. 

There are four levels of the human experience that intuition feeds off of; physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. It comes as no surprise that your intuitive mind has access to an infinite supply of information that is continually being processed.

While intuition sometimes offers a better solution than logic or reason, we are apprehensive about following our inner guide because we fear the end result. When your desire for something becomes so intense, it’s easy to ignore or misread the signals you are receiving about that situation. Learning to trust and act upon your intuition is a function of trusting yourself and moving forward in the right direction.


Laughter is a natural adrenaline rush. It increases our energy and generally lifts the spirits of all involved. We often hear that laughter is the best medicine, but can it be prescribed to anyone? Although most drugs affect people differently, laughter remains the same. It’s credited with a number of psychological and physical benefits; from strengthening our immune systems to bringing joy into our lives.

Having a sense of humor will turn a lot of dull moments into memorable ones. That’s one of the reasons we are attracted to funny people. Humor isn’t merely about telling jokes, it’s the way we view the world. Situations don’t generate our stress, it’s the meaning we place on the situation. Have you ever wondered how some people are able to laugh in the face of danger and adversity? Laughter fuels personal empowerment and provides a sense of control. Laughter and humor is a release, an expression, a new perspective and a reminder that life really isn’t that bad. To quote Mark Twain, “The human race has one really effective weapon, and that is laughter.”