Open-Minded or Close-Minded

Here are some ways to distinguish closed-mindedness and open-mindedness in others

1. Don’t want ideas challenged vs. Curious about why there is a disagreement.

2. More likely to make statements than ask questions vs. Genuinely believe they can be wrong and ask genuine questions.

3. Focus more on being understood than understanding vs. Feel compelled to see things through others’ eyes.

4. Say things like “I could be wrong, but here’s my opinion” vs. Know when to make statements and when to ask questions.

5. Block others from speaking vs. More interested in listening than speaking.

6. Have trouble holding two thoughts in their mind simultaneously vs. Can take in the thoughts of others without losing their ability to think well

7. Lack a deep sense of humility vs. Approach everything with a deep-seated fear that they may be wrong.

Principles by Ray Dalio

Manage Time Better

Who can relate to these statements “manage time better,” “be more productive,” and “focus on what matters”? Mastering the art of time management requires saying no to something. If that doesn’t sit well with you emotionally, consider this, every time you say yes to something, you are simultaneously saying no to something else.

Here are some questions to ask yourself based on The Focus Funnel by Rory Vaden.

Eliminate – Can I live without it?
Automate – Can it be automated?
Delegate – Can it be done by someone else?
Procrastinate – Can it be done later?

Multiply your time by giving yourself the emotional permission to spend time on things today, that will give you more time tomorrow.

The Jungle of Chaos

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Do you ever get tired of navigating the jungle of chaos? Many say they do, but their behaviors, belief systems, and actions perpetuate a chaotic environment.

Human beings have an innate desire to feel valued and often go to great lengths to be seen and heard. Whether it’s exuding power or some other attention-seeking antic, at some point, it becomes taxing on the mind and spirit.

Everything in the jungle has a relationship and purpose. Many diverse forms of life have learned to coexist to fulfill this purpose. It would behoove us to take notice of the beauty that surrounds us versus taking extreme measures to create separation and inferiority. Don’t let your discomfort ruin the experience of others.

Everyone deserves to feel safe and comfortable, requiring us to look beyond our differences and finding the same value systems that underpin the way we engage as a community.

Facing Reality

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Sometimes people try to escape their reality by changing jobs, moving to a new city, or even changing partners. These measures may be necessary at times, but escapism is only a temporary solution.

If you are not willing to face the source of your problems, running away only makes solving them more difficult. Moreover, you will find yourself experiencing similar challenges down the road.

We also fall into the trap of blaming others when we’re part of the problem. Our problems don’t go away with a change of scenery. Often, it requires a change of heart and an adjustment of our ego.

Never Say Never

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There is a saying that everyone has a price. Even the most upstanding citizens have fallen prey to making foolish decisions when money is involved.

We hear about bribes given to judges, police officers, and witnesses for the sake of overlooking the truth, but bribes only hurt the victims more.

Our obsession with money is often responsible for the mistreatment of others. It may not appear so on the surface, but it happens in subtle ways. For example, you decide to dine out for the evening without making a reservation, and upon arriving at the restaurant, the host/hostess tells you it will be a 30-minute wait and adds you to the waiting list.

After waiting a while, another patron enters the restaurant. They also don’t have a reservation, have inquired about the wait time, and have the same number of people in their party. Next thing you know, they are being seated before you.

More than likely, money exchanged hands. The host/hostess accepted the money to his/her benefit, the patron used it to his/her advantage, and the restaurant stands to lose a displeased customer (and get a bad review) for the actions of its staff member.

These types of transactions happen frequently. We don’t think we are doing any significant harm, but in reality, someone is experiencing the impact.

When You Look For Trouble, It Will Rear Its Head

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Sometimes curiosity can cause us to stumble. There are times when we dig for answers to only discover our suspicions were unfounded. The lack of trust revealed by taking such measures creates a divide that isn’t easily repairable.

No one likes to be accused of wrongdoing when they’re making every effort to do what’s right. Our past experiences or guilty conscience can cause us to be overly suspicious of others – questioning every move and second-guessing motives. While we should be cautious and wise in our dealings, we should not assume that every action is ill-intended.

On the other hand, you may have one thing in mind that you are searching for and happen upon other things not meant for you to see. Ultimately, you have to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Self-Control

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Self-control may be limiting, but it is often necessary. We may flirt with temptation, rationalizing that we are technically refraining from the act itself. But, when you become so preoccupied with something that affects your perspective of anything else, you have moved from restraint to recklessness. It’s wise to identify your weak spots to avoid these temptations versus falling victim to them.

Message in the Music

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Music evokes emotion and conveys messages in various ways. Many people have a song they can relate to that inspires them, makes them sad, brings back memories, relaxes them, and sometimes annoys them.

You can listen to the same song at different times and have a different experience depending on what you are going through at that moment.

Whatever your pleasure, there’s music to fit the occasion. Think about:

  • The way teachers use music to teach their students.
  • How companies brand their product or service with jingles or popular songs.
  • How lyrical references in songs can inspire change, influence what we buy, and how we treat each other.
  • How incorporating the element of music into a film helps the audience emotionally connect.
  • How rhythmic chanting invites cultural healing.
  • How music elevates your mood when working out.
  • How music uplifts you spiritually.
  • The therapeutic benefit of music for those with physical disabilities and the list goes on.

Now imagine a world without music.

What Would You Do

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After leaving the gym this morning, I stopped by a nearby Kroger to pick up a few items. I arrived at the store around 7 am. During this timeframe, the only lanes open are self-checkout.

I was the first one in the self-checkout lane and opted to use the register in the very back. After I started scanning my items, two men with separate transactions proceeded to the self-checkout kiosks near the front – which were across the aisle from each other.

During the time this was taking place, the attendant on duty was having a lively discussion with someone within several feet from where I stood.
After I finished scanning my items, I selected the option for entering a coupon that triggered an alert for the attendant to assist me.

Shortly after my register triggered an alert, the other two check-out kiosks triggered an alert. We all turned in the direction of the attendant to get his attention. When he turned around, he had a surprised look on his face and exclaimed, Oh! Everyone needs help!

At that precise moment, I could tell he was processing who to help first. As a recap, my register signaled the alert first. The attendant would also have to walk past me to assist the other two gentlemen.

He decided to help the gentleman then backtrack to help me.

Could this have been a result of him being an older white gentleman and the other two gentlemen were also white?

Could this have been because they were men and I was a woman?

Could this be because they were at the front and I was at the rear?

Could it be that he felt he would get pushback from the gentlemen if he helped me first?

Could this be because I was in gym attire and they weren’t – which gave an impression that I didn’t have any place to be?

I patiently waited for him to assist the other two gentlemen, paid for my transaction, and kept it moving.

What would you have done if you were the attendant?

Having Prejudices Limits You

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Prejudice grows out of personal pride when one considers himself to be better than the other and refuses to look beyond ill-conceived stereotypes.

We are all on different paths and have different levels of understanding, but that does not make any one of us less human.

It is destructive to hate, so don’t let your prejudices get in the way of those you are to set an example for, nor those that are in positions of leadership.

The Importance of Organization

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Organization in the workplace helps keep systems operating smoothly. It also helps people work together in harmony to achieve their goals.

Disorganization, on the other hand, kills productivity and fuels missed opportunities – which results in money down the drain.

Disorganization starts from the top. If the leader is disorganized, the staff will be disorganized because talented people will not stay around a disorganized leader.

In the highly competitive business world, a disorganized company, shortage of talented staff, and upset consumers lends itself to a non-profitable company.

Get to Know You

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Working on self is an ongoing process, and your needs will change throughout your lifetime. One of the easiest ways to get to know you is by spending time alone. This period of reflection will help reveal your behaviors, your outlook on life, what makes you happy, and what needs improvement.

It’s challenging to discover who you are searching outside of yourself. When you search for yourself through the eyes of others, it increases the odds of losing your perspective and adopting theirs.

If you are unclear of what you stand for, how can you expect others to know?

The Power of “Re”

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Our experiences in life are often a reflection of our thoughts and are closely associated with the past revisited and repurposed to justify the present moment.

Refusing to see the err in our ways results in the reoccurrence of learned behavior that is resistant to growth and the relinquishing of the ego.

The beauty of life is that it offers daily opportunities to hit the reset button and to recalibrate the frequency we are emitting to the Universe.

Remember that moments of uncertainty allows us to reprogram our thought process, rediscover our life’s purpose, and move forward with renewed energy.

Entrepreneurship

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Greetings Friends! In light of my many professional endeavors, entrepreneurialism runs through my veins. I realize that entrepreneurship can be a risky undertaking for many, but applied knowledge is power. I have developed teams that have soared to great heights by keeping these four principles ingrained in their psyche:

  1. Put GOD first!
  2. If you do not GO after what you want, you’ll never have it!
  3. If you do not ASK, the answer will always be NO!
  4. If you do not step FORWARD, you will ALWAYS be in the same place!

I help others take charge of their lives by uncovering their motivation and helping them reach their fullest potential. Experience doesn’t matter. I HELP CREATE WINNERS!!

“It doesn’t matter how many times you fail. It doesn’t matter how many times you almost get it right. No one is going to know or care about your failures, and neither should you. All you have to do is learn from them and those around you because all that matters in business is that you get it right once. Then everyone can tell you how lucky you are.” Mark Cuban

The Journey

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Your travels create your life story. It’s a lifelong journey of asking questions and seeking answers, seeing things more clearly, listening more carefully, embracing change, and ultimately learning how to walk with the Creator each step of the way.

Regardless of the mistakes, disappointments, and setbacks you have encountered, where you are now is where you’re supposed to be. We are to trust and be grateful for each set of circumstances along the way.

When you focus on the blessings that emerge from your trials, you gain the strength and courage to continue moving forward. Remember to reflect on how far you have come versus how far you have to go and live out your purpose each day. Look for the Creator’s way in each moment and each decision and be grateful for the experience.

Choose Your Mate Carefully

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Be cautious in your choice of companion. The person you choose to settle down with will have a significant effect on your life – physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

It’s best to align yourself with people demonstrating qualities you would like to develop in your life versus characteristics that raise concern. You must also exemplify the traits you desire in a mate if you expect to have a fulfilling relationship.

It takes time to get to know someone, and most often, you meet their representative first. After peeling back the layers, you sometimes discover that your selection wasn’t all that you expected.

Consider the following:

  • If an irresponsible parent blames someone else for their lack of responsibility, this is not someone you rush to have a child by.
  • Someone who mismanages money should raise a concern with your financial stability.
  • Two people in a relationship practicing different religions must identify how this will affect their household and their future.
  • Someone with an abusive past or addiction may require special care and support.
  • Someone that can’t maintain employment may create more pressure for you in the long run.
  • Someone with a selfish perspective may have difficulty respecting your opinions and belief. Remember, respect comes from mutual regard and appreciation for one another, not by forced obedience.

Your well being should be the primary goal when choosing a mate. People can change, but it would be wise on your part to assess if you are willing to take that risk.

Self Esteem Is Derived On Self

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Our experiences have a lot to do with the mental picture we create of ourselves and influence our attitudes and behaviors throughout life.

Having healthy self-esteem is an integral part of happiness. You are entitled to feel good about yourself. We tend to give others more credit than we give ourselves instead of taking inventory of our strengths and value.

Low self-esteem is self-imposed and often linked to emotional states such as depression, paranoia, and anxiety. Basing your self-esteem on external factors such as the amount of money you have, your physical appearance, or other people’s opinion broadly affects your emotional state whenever these variables change. Relying on external factors to make you feel good about yourself also makes you codependent upon them.

Envision yourself as the best you can be, to create the reality of your life that will be true to your most sincere self-image.

Meditation

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If you take an objective view of your mind, you’ll find that many thoughts drift through it. Meditation is an effective way to clear the mind and gain focus. There are many things you can focus on, various ways to meditate, and no time restraints as to how long you do so.

It’s difficult to hear the answers we seek during the daily hustle and bustle of our lives. Stepping back from the noise and activity allows us to listen humbly and quietly for guidance.

When you have something troubling you and desire to gain more clarity, say a prayer about the subject matter and meditate on it. The answer may not come immediately, but meditating on it will help relax you and release negative energy within you.

Setting Standards

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When you desire to perform at a certain level with someone you measure yourself against, you must first figure out how this became the best standard for you to follow and what you may have to do to get where they are.

If this person had to lie, cheat, and steal to acquire what they have, are you willing to adopt the same behaviors or identify with someone who outwardly appears to be at the same level but did so through hard work and personal integrity?

They may both be packaged differently in perception, but one worked smarter in the long run and the other in a way that will have them looking over their shoulder for years to come.

Whatever choice you make, be sure to consider the long term effects of the standards you set for yourself. Accomplishing a feat in the wrong way can set you up for future failure.

Humanity

Living in a developed country that has a system of order and plentiful resources shields us from the reality that most of humanity faces. It’s not until you travel to a poverty-stricken country and witness the hunger, violence, and disease that signifies life for its inhabitants that you realize the artificial world in which we live.

While some countries are rich in resources, the income derived from those resources rarely reaches the poor. The inequalities prevalent in these countries include unclean water, inadequate medical care, deadly viruses, and limited education. Furthermore, the children in these countries are most affected, many times, succumbing to death due to hunger and malnutrition.

We have a moral obligation to be more appreciative of the opportunities and resources afforded us while finding ways to give of ourselves for the greater good of humanity. “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

Leadership

Many people want to be leaders, but the majority of us are followers. We may be good followers in following a good leader, but no leader is perfect. Many people fail to realize that leadership can appear glamorous at times, but it is often lonely, thankless, and sometimes filled with pressures to compromise values and standards.

The essential quality of leadership is credibility. If people don’t trust you, they won’t follow you. The most effective followers understand their role and follow the ideas and beliefs of their leader. However, if a leader goes against ethical practices, you must be willing to stand alone.

As we rise to leadership positions, our priorities should be finding productive ways to serve people versus our praise, prestige, and power. Although many seek recognition for their accomplishments through these channels, they are poor substitutes for the substance gained in serving someone other than ourselves.

Blaming Others

You cannot run away from yourself, so blaming others is worthless. You are responsible for your thoughts and actions, as well as what unfolds before you. As long as you blame others, you will continue making the same mistakes.

It is not uncommon for us to shift the blame to someone else to avoid feelings of guilt. Unfortunately, this doesn’t solve the underlying issue. When you encounter trouble, take inventory of your attitude and behavior and see if that could be the source of the problem.

Sacrifice

Many human beings make sacrifices throughout their lives. Whether it’s obtaining a certain level of education, losing weight, or winning a competition, the result justifies the sacrifice made to achieve the desired outcome.

Sometimes we sacrifice things for the wrong reason. Think about the relationships that end because the grass looks greener on the other side. Think about the luxury items we buy that don’t necessarily perform any better than those of a lesser cost.

As with everything else in life, there must be a balance with sacrifice. You may have to give up something today for a better tomorrow, but giving up everything enjoyable in your life can be taking it to the extreme.

Our time on earth is short, and we cannot take anything with us upon our departure. Therefore, don’t live a present life of misery for a future life you may not be able to enjoy. Ask yourself what your motivation is. Sacrificing for the wrong reasons could be worse than no sacrifice at all.

Superstitions

Since human knowledge is far from perfect, our brains are hard-wired to look for cause and effect in the world. If one thing seems to happen before another, we may find ourselves linking them together to create superstition.

Many people have at least one superstitious belief. For example, Friday 13th is considered an unlucky day, but the Universe doesn’t go on hiatus on this particular day.

Our minds are all-powerful. What we focus our attention on expands and lends itself to the law of attraction. The law of attraction is more than a mystical belief – it is purposeful thought. Superstitions can put expectations in our mind that the law of attraction delivers on.

You can consciously choose positive thoughts and create empowering beliefs or allow superstitions to give way to unlucky scenarios.

Stress

Indirectly, stress is probably our number one killer. Not only does stress lead to health-related issues, but stressing over something doesn’t always solve the problem.

It’s imperative to evaluate your overall lifestyle when encountering significant stress. Some people can handle stressors with relative ease, while others are overwhelmed by minor nuances.

For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. We may not be able to remove the stressors from our life, but we can find ways to reduce their effect through careful thought, prayer, rearranging of our priorities, discussion, and good counsel. Manage your stress, or your stress will manage you.

Self Pity

Self-pity is a self-destructive emotion that presents a warped sense of reality. Feelings of self-pity typically arise out of specific situations.

Emotionally, we are most vulnerable to self-pity after a great effort or when faced with real physical needs. Feeling sorry for yourself or your circumstance doesn’t help the situation. It only dilutes the good you may be doing.

Self-pity is a perspective that can easily be changed. Once you acknowledge what you are dissatisfied with, it is your responsibility to work towards changing your predicament.

You will experience many highs and lows throughout your lifetime. The goal is to get through the lows as quickly as possible and seek support if necessary to aid you through the process.

Playing the victim causes you to lose sight of all you have to be grateful for and the fact that you have it better than someone else in the world.

Keep in mind that people are not as willing to help someone that is not taking the necessary measures to help himself.

“Self-pity will parch your attitudes, it will paralyze your abilities, and it will put off your achievements. It prohibits excellence and prevents expansion.” Anonymous

Motivation

Motivation is greater than temporary stimulation that lasts up until the moment someone stops speaking or inspiring. It is a personal belief and desire to accept responsibility for your own life and take the necessary action to achieve the things you seek.

Periods of frustration often reflect an urging to succeed in some area of your life. By understanding what frustrates you, you’ll better understand what fulfills you. The message behind your frustration is priming you to make a difference in your life by creating new and meaningful value. That’s embedded motivation.

Think Before You Speak

Effective communication can be a challenge even when clearly stated or written. Additionally, social media, text messaging, and email increase the likelihood of your words getting lost in translation. How you deliver your message is just as important as what you say if you expect others to respond constructively.

While it’s good to have something to say, it is equally important to weigh it first. When we talk too much and listen too little, we communicate to others that our perspective is far more important than theirs. In our hastiness to get our point across, we forfeit the opportunity to listen and learn. You are what comes out of your mouth, so be mindful of what you speak.

Dreams

The meaning of dreams has drawn plenty of controversies. Some view dreams as our higher self – healing, advising, encouraging, and sometimes warning us of impending dangers.

Others view dreams as nothing more than a vision pulled from our memory and shaped by our imagination.

Whichever you choose to believe, this broadened sense of awareness lends itself to various meanings and new possibilities.

Dreams are a divine gift that many often take for granted – not realizing that the dream state is an expanded state of consciousness.

Stephen LaBerge sums dreams up well “Not all lucid dreams are useful, but they all have a sense of wonder about them. If you must sleep through a third of your life, why should you sleep through your dreams, too?”

Human Life

Human behavior falls into patterns. Still, no one particular person can produce enough knowledge or insight to explain the totality of the human experience. It’s easy to value material possessions over human life, but life is your greatest gift.

All human accomplishments will one day disappear, so it’s better to live your life wisely. Failing to do so can cause you to become too proud or self-sufficient as it relates to your successes and greatly disappointed with your perceived failure(s).

Doubt

Some people must doubt before they’re able to believe. Yet, you can have doubts without living a doubtful way of life.

Doubt is a way of responding, not a permanent condition. The goal is to sharpen the mind, not necessarily change it. If doubt leads to questions and the answers are accepted, then doubt has done good work. It’s when doubt becomes stubbornness and stubbornness becomes a way of life that doubt overrides faith.

Don’t settle into doubts. Move on from them to pose the question, get an answer, and push for a decision.

Stop Complaining

 

Sometimes we complain without realizing we are doing so. It can be something as simple as commenting on the weather conditions outside to a passerby.

As challenging as it may be to process, you chose the life that you have right now, directly or indirectly. It’s easy to blame others for your problems. Unfortunately, that doesn’t solve the problem.

Where you are today is a direct result of a decision you have or have not made. If you are unwilling to change, then there is no need to complain. In other words, stop criticizing your circumstances and change your conditions.

Control Your Anger

Losing something of great value or dealing with someone who conspires against you can elicit an angry response. Unfortunately, anger is a dangerous and destructive emotion that always threatens to leap out of control. It pushes you to make hasty decisions that result in bitterness and guilt.

There are times when anger is appropriate, but most often, it is futile. You will face countless opportunities in life to lose your temper, but making a conscious effort to channel your anger constructively is what incites change. When you feel like you’re ready to explode, remember that losing control will not solve the problem. It only fuels the fire.

Lead By Example

You can either be part of the problem or part of the solution. Leading by example earns you the right to be heard because your actions reinforce what you speak.

Those closest to you often emulate what you do, so if you desire for someone to behave a certain way, don’t be the double standard.

Francis Bacon once remarked, “He that gives good advice builds with one hand; he that gives good counsel and example, builds with both; but he that gives good admonition and bad example, builds with one hand and pulls down the other.”

Don’t Assume

Wrong assumptions lead to faulty conclusions. As the saying goes, “when you assume, you make an Ass out of U and Me.”

We tend to make assumptions about everything, especially as it pertains to people. That’s why it’s critical to engage in a little fact-finding before concluding. Don’t automatically assume that someone’s motives are wrong, even if it initially draws suspicion.

Assuming the worse about the intentions of another can cause you to overlook the good they may bring into your life. Healthy skepticism is not wrong in itself, but exercising wisdom goes a lot further.

Skeletons In The Closet

Sometimes we mistakenly believe we can get away with our wrongdoing if no one witnesses or catches us. But, when a crisis occurs, we soon discover that our misdeeds have been quietly breeding into adverse consequences.

In a world dominated by social media, we can discover more about people in some manner. While all skeletons are not damaging, it is still generally defined as a guilty secret you’d prefer not to share.

It’s better to live each day as if your actions will one day be known to the world.

Fear

Fear is a dark shadow that envelops you and ultimately imprisons you within yourself. Fear becomes the expression of doubt and lack of self-confidence that gradually eats away at your motivation and paralyzes you so that you don’t act at all.

When you are fearful, you’ll continually look for visible signs. Signs are unnecessary if they only confirm what you already know to be true. Instead of looking for more confirmation, take action. Getting started is often the most frightening part of the task.

Use Your Natural Talents

Everyone is born with his or her unique talents. Don’t minimize your skills because you don’t think your talent measures up to someone else’s. Rather than focusing on the talents of another, make use of the talents already afforded you.

If you have difficulty recognizing your strengths, consider how others describe you. They often see what you overlook or fail to give yourself credit.

Once you understand your talents, you’ll come to realize how easy you were doing something that others find a struggle.

As Mark Twain quoted: “We are always more anxious to be distinguished for a talent which we do not possess than to be praised for the fifteen which we do possess.”

Bad Habits

There may be a tendency in our lives to allow what we believe to be harmless habits, manifest into dominating forces if left unattended. For example:

  • Mismanaging money can lead you to the poorhouse.
  • Experimenting with mind-altering substances can create dependency.
  • Telling one lie can lead to more lies to cover up the initial lie.
  • Being consistently late in life can lead to missed opportunities.
  • Having a negative outlook can lead to adverse outcomes.
  • Gossiping can lead to lost relationships.
  • Taking shortcuts in life can cheat you in the long run.
  • Consistent misspellings, punctuation, and grammatical errors in your method of communication can make you appear less intelligent.
  • Laziness can lead to poor health and lack of self-development.
  • Speaking without thinking can lead to compromising situations.
  • Lack of manners can lead to the appearance of ungratefulness.
  • Failure to follow directions can lead to disastrous results.
  • Lack of self-confidence can lead to people taking advantage of you.
  • Resisting change can lead to other implications.

Take inventory of your bad habits and work diligently to improve upon them. What may initially appear harmless can have a tremendous effect on your day to day living.

Product Of Your Environment

You can live under your circumstances or above them. You don’t have to become a prisoner of them. There are circumstances in which you have no control of such as your heredity, and others in which you do, such as the decisions you make.

Resist the temptation to think about the limitations your family background or environment creates for you. Regardless of your upbringing or who influenced your life, you can move beyond those limitations by making a conscious decision to be proactive.

Proactive people live life prepared and make the most out of a situation. It’s not until you desire more for yourself and take the appropriate action towards advancement that the right people and opportunities serendipitously appear.

Negative People

 

Negative people are often short-sighted and lack something within, and if you allow yourself to become one of their victims, they’ll drain the life out of you. These depressed spirits always seem to have a perpetual cloud looming over them. When everyone else appears happy, they maintain a gloomy disposition. They speak negative words into existence and then wonder why the world isn’t smiling upon them. Word of advice, get out of their path quick!

A significant determinant of happiness is the absence of negativity. Negativity robs you of better outcomes by making you a quitter. Those who can extract the positive in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run.

Revenge

 
 

There is a Chinese Proverb that states: “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Revenge is an uncontrollable monster. Not only will it ruin your peace of mind, but it also increases the chances of future retaliation. If you applied the principle “an eye for an eye,” you stand the risk of fueling revenge that doesn’t offer finality to a problem.

While it’s necessary to punish those who break the law, a fair punishment weakens the revengeful nature and creates a systematic approach to handle similar threats. In essence, forgiveness can reduce the cycle of revenge. It takes more courage to lay aside hatred and hurt than to take justice into your own hands.

Delegate

Proper delegation can multiply your effectiveness while allowing others to grow.
People in positions of responsibility sometimes feel they are the only ones who can perform necessary tasks when others are capable of handling part of the load.
Allow someone to prove their worthiness. If that requires you taking the time to train them in a specific area, then it’s well worth doing so to maximize performance.

Admit When You Are Wrong

You don’t always have to be right to feel good about yourself. That’s why it’s easy to admire people who openly admit their mistakes and take ownership.

Something in us strongly resists when we are wrong. Our initial reaction is to respond angrily and defensively rather than acknowledging where we went wrong, apologizing for our mistake, and diffusing the situation.

When we have wronged someone, it may require going the extra mile to make things right. Rather than compound an error through defensiveness, ask for forgiveness and reconciliation. You will save yourself and others a lot of undue stress in the long run.

Kids Often Follow In Their Parents Footsteps

Parents help shape the world’s future by the way they shape their children’s values. Children learn values, morals, and priorities by observing how their parents act and react every day.

Consider the effects that abuse, alcoholism, selfishness, or greed has on a child. When children witness these negative traits, it becomes challenging getting through to them and redirecting their course.

If you sit in a room full of children and quietly observe, you may be surprised by what they say and how they behave. We may initially find humor in seeing our children repeat something we’ve said or done. When you acknowledge the behavior they emulate isn’t so cute anymore, the damage has already taken place.

It’s our job as parents to be the positive influence they need, so they, in turn, can pass down to their children the values we’ve instilled.

First Impressions

First impressions are the images planted in one’s mind until otherwise corrected. In a matter of seconds, your first encounter with someone will set the tone for future interactions. Rarely do you get the opportunity to change a negative impression.

One of the best compliments one can receive is for someone to say that they are better off for knowing you, no matter how long that might have been.

Wealth

Wealth gives the façade of power and control but often does not deliver. You can lose it instantly through uncontrollable factors, and those who seek it obsessively never find the happiness they think it promises.

Money is not wrong, and in reality, a necessity in our society. However, loving money too much leads to all sorts of problems. We often want more than we have and then lose sleep over the fear of losing it. Regardless of how much you earn, if you try to create happiness through the accumulation of wealth, you will never have enough.

Whatever financial situation you are in, learn how to use what you have wisely and constructively. Ultimately, you leave it behind when it’s time to depart this earthly world.