Choose Your Mate Carefully

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Be cautious in your choice of companion. The person you choose to settle down with will have a significant effect on your life – physically, spiritually and emotionally. It’s best to align yourself with people demonstrating characteristics you would like to develop in your own life, versus characteristics that raise concern. It’s also important that you exemplify the things you desire in a mate if you expect to have a fulfilling relationship. It takes time to get to know someone and most often you meet their representative first. After peeling back the layers, you sometimes discover that your selection wasn’t all that it was cracked up to be.

Consider the following: if an irresponsible parent blames someone else for their lack of responsibility, this is not someone you rush to have a child by. A person who mismanages money should raise concern with your financial stability. A couple practicing different religions must identify how this will affect their household and their future. Someone with an abusive past or addiction may require special care and support. Someone that can’t maintain employment may create more pressure for you in the long run. Someone with a selfish perspective may have difficulty respecting your opinions and belief.  Remember, respect comes from mutual regard and appreciation for one another, not by forced obedience.  At the end of the day, your well being should be the primary goal when choosing a mate. This is not to insinuate that a person can’t change, but it would be wise on your part to assess if you are willing to take that chance.

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Self Esteem Is Derived On Self

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Our experiences have a lot to do with the mental picture we create of ourselves and how it influences our attitudes and behaviors throughout life. Having a healthy self esteem is an integral part of happiness.  You are entitled to feel good about yourself.  We have the tendency to give others more credit than we give ourselves, instead of taking inventory of our own personal strengths and value. Low self esteem is self imposed and often linked to emotional states such as depression, paranoia and anxiety.

Basing your self esteem on external factors such as the amount of money you have, your physical appearance or other’s opinion, broadly affects your emotional state whenever these variables change.  Relying on external factors to make you feel good about yourself also makes you codependent upon them.  Discovering your own truth and developing peace within is the foundation for attaining all that your heart desires. Envision yourself as the best you can be, to create the reality of your life that will be true to your most sincere self image.