Month: March 2013

Product Of Your Environment

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You can live under your circumstances or above them. You don’t have to become a prisoner of them. There are circumstances in which you have no control of such as your heredity, and others in which you do, such as the decisions you make.

Resist the temptation to think about the limitations your family background or environment creates for you. Regardless of your upbringing or who influenced your life, you can move beyond those limitations by making a conscious decision to be proactive.

Proactive people live life prepared and make the most out of a situation. It’s not until you desire more for yourself and take the appropriate action towards advancement that the right people and opportunities serendipitously appear.

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Negative People

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Negative people are often short-sighted and lack something within, and if you allow yourself to become one of their victims, they’ll drain the life out of you. These depressed spirits always seem to have a perpetual cloud looming over them. When everyone else appears happy, they maintain a gloomy disposition. They speak negative words into existence and then wonder why the world isn’t smiling upon them. Word of advice, get out of their path quick!

A significant determinant of happiness is the absence of negativity. Negativity robs you of better outcomes by making you a quitter. Those who can extract the positive in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run.

Revenge

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There is a Chinese Proverb that states: “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Revenge is an uncontrollable monster. Not only will it ruin your peace of mind, but it also increases the chances of future retaliation. If you applied the principle “an eye for an eye,” you stand the risk of fueling revenge that doesn’t offer finality to a problem.

While it’s necessary to punish those who break the law, a fair punishment weakens the revengeful nature and creates a systematic approach to handle similar threats. In essence, forgiveness can reduce the cycle of revenge. It takes more courage to lay aside hatred and hurt than to take justice into your own hands.

Delegate

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Proper delegation can multiply your effectiveness while allowing others to grow.
People in positions of responsibility sometimes feel they are the only ones who can perform necessary tasks when others are capable of handling part of the load.
Allow someone to prove their worthiness. If that requires you taking the time to train them in a specific area, then it’s well worth doing so to maximize performance.

Admit When You Are Wrong

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Everyone makes mistakes.

How we handle them is what can make or break us.

Some people strongly resist when they are wrong.

Their initial reaction is to respond defensively rather than acknowledging the mistake, apologizing, and doing what they can to make things right.

There is a level of respect warranted for people who openly admit their mistakes and take ownership.

That doesn’t mean the people impacted by the mistake will always be overly gracious, but they can become more accepting over time.

Rather than compound a mistake through defensiveness, take corrective action and identify the lesson behind it.

It can save a lot of undue stress.

What’s your approach to dealing with mistakes?

Kids Often Follow In Their Parents Footsteps

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Parents help shape the world’s future by the way they shape their children’s values. Children learn values, morals, and priorities by observing how their parents act and react every day.

Consider the effects that abuse, alcoholism, selfishness, or greed has on a child. When children witness these negative traits, it becomes challenging getting through to them and redirecting their course.

If you sit in a room full of children and quietly observe, you may be surprised by what they say and how they behave. We may initially find humor in seeing our children repeat something we’ve said or done. When you acknowledge the behavior they emulate isn’t so cute anymore, the damage has already taken place.

It’s our job as parents to be the positive influence they need, so they, in turn, can pass down to their children the values we’ve instilled.

First Impressions

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First impressions are the images planted in one’s mind until otherwise corrected. In a matter of seconds, your first encounter with someone will set the tone for future interactions. Rarely do you get the opportunity to change a negative impression.

One of the best compliments one can receive is for someone to say that they are better off for knowing you, no matter how long that might have been.