You can live under your circumstances or above them. You don’t have to become a prisoner of them. There are circumstances in which you have no control of such as your heredity and others in which you do, such as the decisions you make. You must resist the temptation to think about the limitations your family background or environment creates for you. Regardless of how you were raised or who influenced your life, you can move beyond those limitations by making a conscious decision to be proactive.
People who are proactive, live life prepared and make the most out of a situation. It’s not until you desire more for yourself and take the appropriate action towards advancement, that people and opportunities are revealed to you. You either let your environment influence you or you influence it.
Negative people are often short sighted and lack something within, and if you allow yourself to become one of their victims, they’ll drain the life out of you. These depressed spirits always seem to have a perpetual cloud looming over them. When everyone else appears happy, they maintain a gloomy disposition. They speak negative words into existence and then wonder why the world doesn’t appear to be smiling upon them. Word of advice…get out of their path quick!
One of the biggest determinants of happiness is the absence of negativity. Negativity robs you of better outcomes by making you a quitter. Those who are able to extract the positive in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run.
There is a Chinese Proverb that states: “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves”. Revenge is an uncontrollable monster. Not only will it ruin your own piece of mind, it increases the chances of future retaliation. If you applied the principle “an eye for an eye,” you stand the risk of fueling revenge that doesn’t offer finality to a problem.
While it’s necessary to punish those who break the law, a punishment applied appropriately weakens the revengeful nature and creates a systematic approach to handle similar threats. In essence, the revenge cycle can only be halted by forgiveness. It takes more courage to lay aside hatred and hurt than to take justice into your own hands.
Proper delegation can multiply your effectiveness while giving others an opportunity to grow. People in positions of responsibility sometimes feel they are the only ones who can perform necessary tasks, when others are capable of handling part of the load. Give someone an opportunity to prove their worthiness. If that requires you taking the time to train them in a specific area, then it’s well worth doing so in an effort to maximize your performance.
You don’t always have to be right in order to feel good about yourself. That’s why it’s easy to admire those who openly admit their mistakes. Those who do, exhibit a strong self image by taking ownership. Something in us strongly resists when we are wrong. Our initial reaction is to respond angrily and defensively rather than acknowledging where we went wrong, apologizing for our mistake and diffusing the situation. When we have wronged someone, it may require going beyond what is expected, in an effort to make things right. Rather than compound an error through defensiveness, ask for forgiveness and reconciliation. You will save yourself and others a lot of undue stress in the long run.
Wisdom is gained through a constant process of growing. While society has a propensity to honor wealth, attractiveness and success above wisdom, wisdom is a greater asset than all those combined. Wisdom gives us the ability to make sound decisions derived on experience and proper discernment. Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living, the other helps you make a life. Although knowledge is a mark of wisdom, wisdom means far more than simply knowing a lot. It’s an attitude that affects every aspect of your life. Regardless of how much you think you know, there will be some things you never understand and believing otherwise, reveals a lack of true wisdom.
Parents help shape the world’s future by the way they shape their children’s values. Children learn values, morals and priorities by observing how their parents act and react every day. Consider the effects that abuse, alcoholism, selfishness, and/or greed has on a child. Once children are exposed to these negative traits, it becomes a challenge to get through to them and redirect their course. What you do and teach your children can profoundly affect them and last a lifetime.
If you sit in a room full of children and observe, you will be amazed by what they say and the behaviors displayed. We initially think it’s funny when we see children repeat something they’ve heard in their immediate environment, but when you acknowledge the behavior they emulate isn’t so cute anymore, the damage has already been done. It’s our job as parents to be the positive influence they need, so they in turn, can pass down to their children the values we’ve instilled.
First impressions are the images planted in one’s mind until otherwise corrected. Unfortunately, you rarely get the opportunity to redeem yourself if a negative image has been projected. How we think we are perceived and how others actually see us are totally different. In a matter of seconds, your first encounter with someone will set the tone for future interactions. So whether it’s a two second smile or frown, your actions affect
others you come into contact with. One of the best compliments one can
receive is for someone to say that they are better off for knowing you, no
matter how long that might have been.