I came across an article this weekend that touched on facing today’s fears, living today’s dreams, creating new stories, and understanding ourselves. The lessons that follow help to move us to those ends.
1. If you want to change the world, you have to fall in love with what already is. The same goes for changing yourself.
2. Listen to your doubts. They not only teach you of your fears but also your wisdom.
3. It’s okay to claim all is well amid doubt and confusion and to be happy despite challenges.
4. Your feelings are your choice. What manifests after may not be. Choose wisely.
5. What you say does not determine your honesty, but why you say it.
6. Never decide until you have to.
7. Take full responsibility for your life and never forget to have fun.
8. Always see work as play and play as important. Soon you won’t know the difference between the two.
9. The trick to being in the right place at the right time is knowing you already are.
10. The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living them at once, however humbly, to any degree you can.
I, like many others, have had to regroup from the changes that 2020 has brought about. Finding ways to balance the unpredictability of my career and the “new normal” called chaos is not for the faint of heart. Despite the challenges, I realize that inaction is a waste of time and will get you nowhere fast.
When we overanalyze and fight for never-changing security, we stop experiencing the full array of choices life has to offer during our journey. Many of us have an obsessive desire to know what is happening now and what tomorrow will bring. Wondering what the future holds is a tough question at any age. Instead of trying to figure it all out, get comfortable with the discomfort of uncertainty.
There is an ancient Japanese Philosophy called Wabi-Sabi. It is a mindset that embraces the unpredictability of life, and it teaches us to celebrate the way things are instead of how it should be.
Life is unpredictable. And that’s okay. Embrace it. When nothing is certain, everything is possible! Our plans for tomorrow, next month, or next year may not unfold as we expect. But it is imperative to take action and keep moving forward.
The internet provides us with vasts amounts of information, but does it help us truly understand? Information overload doesn’t result in more wisdom. If anything, the opposite occurs – information without the proper context and interpretation only muddles our understanding.
There’s a difference between knowledge and experience. Obtaining knowledge requires some sensory input: reading, watching, listening, and touching. In contrast, experience comes with time, exposure, and practice.
For example, we may recognize a written language just by looking at the characters, but we will not understand it unless we take time to study it and put it to use.
We may also know something intellectually, but our intuitive thoughts, feelings, and emotions can cloud our understanding and shortchange our experience.
Chinese philosopher Confucius sums it up well: “I hear, and I forget. I see, and I remember. I do, and I understand.”
Society has come up with its idea of a maturity timeline such as:
Sixteen to obtain a driver’s license.
Eighteen to leave the nest and enter adulthood.
Twenty-one to purchase alcohol.
Twenty-five to rent a car.
In reality, does this define maturity?
Age doesn’t always correlate with maturity.
Life experiences can boost one’s maturity level at a rate of increase that is dictated by social influences, family upbringing, personal desires, and a host of other factors.
There are also a bunch of old fools.
The fundamentals of maturity involve the ability to deal with problems immediately, the ability to learn and grow from past experiences, the ability to accept fault for one’s actions, the ability to maintain a level head, the ability to maintain a positive attitude, and the fortitude to grow in wisdom.
Where there is ignorance, society does not advance. We are living in a state of confusion and mixed messages. Yet, there is a wealth of information at our fingertips.
Ignorance is no longer a plausible explanation. If we expect certain behaviors to change, we must first understand what reinforces it and do something about it instead of making excuses for why it exists.
We are all accountable for our actions and have been equipped with the manual of life to teach us morality. Anything outside of that becomes free will.
It only takes one person to create a domino effect of change, so take a stance and speak up. Allowing others to force you into a position of ignorance only perpetuates the problem.
Never stop the pursuit of seeking knowledge because every time you find it, wisdom will grow.