Losing something of great value or dealing with someone who conspires against you can elicit an angry response. Unfortunately, anger is a dangerous and destructive emotion that always threatens to leap out of control. It pushes you to make hasty decisions that result in bitterness and guilt.
There are times when anger is appropriate, but most often, it is futile. You will face countless opportunities in life to lose your temper, but making a conscious effort to channel your anger constructively is what incites change. When you feel like you’re ready to explode, remember that losing control will not solve the problem. It only fuels the fire.
You can either be part of the problem or part of the solution. Leading by example earns you the right to be heard because your actions reinforce what you speak.
Those closest to you often emulate what you do, so if you desire for someone to behave a certain way, don’t be the double standard.
Francis Bacon once remarked, “He that gives good advice builds with one hand; he that gives good counsel and example, builds with both; but he that gives good admonition and bad example, builds with one hand and pulls down the other.”
Fear is a dark shadow that envelops you and ultimately imprisons you within yourself. Fear becomes the expression of doubt and lack of self-confidence that gradually eats away at your motivation and paralyzes you so that you don’t act at all.
When you are fearful, you’ll continually look for visible signs. Signs are unnecessary if they only confirm what you already know to be true. Instead of looking for more confirmation, take action. Getting started is often the most frightening part of the task.