You can either take control of your life or let someone else do it for you. People become pawns when they allow themselves to be used by others for selfish purposes. It could be through the use of your name, children, employment, political agenda, money, physical makeup, or connections with others.
It’s not always easy to detect someone’s true intentions, but a telltale sign is when your ongoing involvement with them doesn’t produce anything respectable and ultimately interferes with your destiny. Life is too short to live another person’s dream, so live your life for you, and the rest will follow.