Active Listening

Listening is difficult because it involves suppressing our #ego long enough to consider what is being said before we respond. When someone starts talking, our minds listen for:

1. Reasonably guess what they are going to say. (E.g., “I know what you are going to say.”)

2. Identify a pattern. (E.g., “I know where you are going with this.”)

3. Something we disagree with (E.g., That’s wrong.”)

When that happens, we stop #listening and our mind starts preparing for a response. At that moment, the conversation becomes about us. A conversation is not a race to make a point, but rather an exploration of someone’s mind. You don’t have to agree and you don’t have an obligation to understand. Just listen.

FS BrainFoodNo.356

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