Self-pity is a self-destructive emotion that presents a warped sense of reality. Feelings of self-pity typically arise out of specific situations.
Emotionally, we are most vulnerable to self-pity after a great effort or when faced with real physical needs. Feeling sorry for yourself or your circumstance doesn’t help the situation. It only dilutes the good you may be doing.
Self-pity is a perspective that can easily be changed. Once you acknowledge what you are dissatisfied with, it is your responsibility to work towards changing your predicament.
You will experience many highs and lows throughout your lifetime. The goal is to get through the lows as quickly as possible and seek support if necessary to aid you through the process.
Playing the victim causes you to lose sight of all you have to be grateful for and the fact that you have it better than someone else in the world.
Keep in mind that people are not as willing to help someone that is not taking the necessary measures to help himself.
“Self-pity will parch your attitudes, it will paralyze your abilities, and it will put off your achievements. It prohibits excellence and prevents expansion.” Anonymous
Ramona Mills 
Lordy…lordy! This attention seeking characteristic is often unnerving. Sistah Mills please allow me to make this one statement. It’s a monopolizing approach for a toxic stalemate called “validation”. You gotta move at some point. Can’t stay there trying to get a pigeon to lay a chicken egg just because ya think it’ll make you feel better. Wake up Shugga!!!