Self pity is a self-destructive emotion that presents a warped sense of reality. Feelings of self pity typically arise out of specific situations. Emotionally, we are most vulnerable to self pity after a great effort or when faced with real physical needs. Feeling sorry for yourself and/or your circumstance doesn’t help the situation, it only dilutes the good you may be doing. Self pity is a perspective that can easily be changed. Once you acknowledge what you are dissatisfied with, it is your responsibility to work towards changing your predicament. You will experience a number of highs and lows throughout your lifetime. The goal is to get through the lows as quickly as possible and seek support if necessary to aide you through the process. Playing the victim causes you to lose sight of all you have to be grateful for and the fact that you have it better than someone else in the world. Remember, people are not as willing to help someone that is not taking necessary measures to help himself.
“Self-pity will parch your attitudes, it will paralyze your abilities, and it will put off your achievements. It prohibits excellence and prevents expansion.” Anonymous