There’s a phrase that resilient people often hold close: “It’s the story I’m telling myself.”

When challenges arise, our brains, designed to protect us above all else, crave a narrative. Stories offer structure and clarity. In response, our minds eagerly weave narratives to help us make sense of the unknown. But are these stories serving us or holding us back?

The Power and Fear of Vulnerability

Love. Belonging. Joy. These are the treasures that vulnerability unlocks. Yet, how can we truly love if we refuse to let ourselves be seen? We long for connection, but fear keeps us in hiding – hesitant to reveal our truths, even as we yearn to understand others.

True belonging doesn’t require us to fit in or acclimate. It asks for something much deeper: authenticity. Vulnerability is where we find our greatest joys and connections. Yet, paradoxically, joy is the most vulnerable emotion of all. Why? Because we fear its impermanence. In moments of happiness, we often brace ourselves for tragedy; dress-rehearsing disaster instead of embracing gratitude.

Choosing Gratitude Over Fear

When vulnerability surfaces, some see it as a signal to prepare for the worst. Others view it as a gentle reminder to be grateful. Gratitude becomes the differentiator, transforming fear into joy and uncertainty into purpose.

So, which narrative will you choose? Will you let gratitude guide you toward joy or let fear keep you rehearsing for loss?

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