Our core qualities are effortless. It’s partly nature and nurture. They color what we see, how we behave, our interactions, etc. If we can express these core qualities in our work and daily life, we probably feel good. In actuality, it may be difficult not to exude these qualities.
What comes along with our core qualities? Consequences.
⚠ The first consequence is our pitfall. Too much of something good can have an adverse effect. If determination is our core quality, pushiness may be our pitfall.
⚠ The second is our challenge. Not being pushy requires patience. Interestingly, we often look for our challenge outside of ourselves (E.g., A patient partner).
⚠ The third is too much of our challenge becomes our allergy. Some people are so incredibly patient it may come across as passiveness. Determined people are allergic to passiveness.
The Core Quadrant can help us understand our idiosyncrasies.
For example, if your child or mate is your challenge, the consequence is that they are also your allergy.
Being able to identify and look beyond what unnerves us helps us see the beauty and value of others.
Adapted: Daniel Ofman – YouTube