What We See, What We Say, What We Believe

Culture is made up of three layers, represented here by an iceberg:

  • Behaviors, systems, policies and processes surrounding the way things are done
  • Ideals, goals, values, and aspirations set by leadership
  • Underlying assumptions that guide behavior

A leader’s influence on an organization and its culture can be subdivided into three general #culture types:

1. Constructive – encourage the attainment of organizational goals through people development; promote teamwork and synergy; and enhance individual, group, and organizational adaptability and effectiveness.

2. Aggressive/Defensive – lead people to focus on their own needs at the expense of those of their group and organization and lead to stress, turnover, and inconsistent performance.

3. Passive/Defensive – lead people to subordinate themselves to the organization, stifle creativity and initiative, and allow the organization to stagnate.

Sources: CultureIQ, HumanSynergisticsCircumplex

Message in the Music

Music

Music evokes emotion and conveys messages in various ways. Many people have a song they can relate to that inspires them, makes them sad, brings back memories, relaxes them, and sometimes annoys them.

You can listen to the same song at different times and have a different experience depending on what you are going through at that moment.

Whatever your pleasure, there’s music to fit the occasion. Think about:

  • The way teachers use music to teach their students.
  • How companies brand their product or service with jingles or popular songs.
  • How lyrical references in songs can inspire change, influence what we buy, and how we treat each other.
  • How incorporating the element of music into a film helps the audience emotionally connect.
  • How rhythmic chanting invites cultural healing.
  • How music elevates your mood when working out.
  • How music uplifts you spiritually.
  • The therapeutic benefit of music for those with physical disabilities and the list goes on.

Now imagine a world without music.

Lead By Example

You can either be part of the problem or part of the solution. Leading by example earns you the right to be heard because your actions reinforce what you speak.

Those closest to you often emulate what you do, so if you desire for someone to behave a certain way, don’t be the double standard.

Francis Bacon once remarked, “He that gives good advice builds with one hand; he that gives good counsel and example, builds with both; but he that gives good admonition and bad example, builds with one hand and pulls down the other.”

Product Of Your Environment

You can live under your circumstances or above them. You don’t have to become a prisoner of them. There are circumstances in which you have no control of such as your heredity, and others in which you do, such as the decisions you make.

Resist the temptation to think about the limitations your family background or environment creates for you. Regardless of your upbringing or who influenced your life, you can move beyond those limitations by making a conscious decision to be proactive.

Proactive people live life prepared and make the most out of a situation. It’s not until you desire more for yourself and take the appropriate action towards advancement that the right people and opportunities serendipitously appear.

Kids Often Follow In Their Parents Footsteps

Parents help shape the world’s future by the way they shape their children’s values. Children learn values, morals, and priorities by observing how their parents act and react every day.

Consider the effects that abuse, alcoholism, selfishness, or greed has on a child. When children witness these negative traits, it becomes challenging getting through to them and redirecting their course.

If you sit in a room full of children and quietly observe, you may be surprised by what they say and how they behave. We may initially find humor in seeing our children repeat something we’ve said or done. When you acknowledge the behavior they emulate isn’t so cute anymore, the damage has already taken place.

It’s our job as parents to be the positive influence they need, so they, in turn, can pass down to their children the values we’ve instilled.

Know Who Your Friends Are

In our fast-paced world, friends come and go, and circumstances change. Each can have a place in our lives in different ways. The friend you party with may not be the one you care to tell your deepest secrets.

Friendship is one of those areas full of hidden assumptions and unspoken rules. We only discover the value of our relationships when those assumptions clash.

Evidence of genuine friendship is loyalty and trust. Real friends give to and receive from each other. Fair-weather friends do not know the meaning of reciprocity. They take all we have to give, but we never see a return on our investment. We all need friends who listen, care and offer help when needed, in good times and bad.

Our friends can have a profound influence on us, often in subtle ways. Be mindful of whom you choose as your closest friends because you will surely grow to resemble each other.