Effective communication can be a challenge even when clearly stated or written. Additionally, social media, text messaging, and email increase the likelihood of your words getting lost in translation. How you deliver your message is just as important as what you say if you expect others to respond constructively.
While it’s good to have something to say, it is equally important to weigh it first. When we talk too much and listen too little, we communicate to others that our perspective is far more important than theirs. In our hastiness to get our point across, we forfeit the opportunity to listen and learn. You are what comes out of your mouth, so be mindful of what you speak.
Some people must doubt before they’re able to believe. Yet, you can have doubts without living a doubtful way of life.
Doubt is a way of responding, not a permanent condition. The goal is to sharpen the mind, not necessarily change it. If doubt leads to questions and the answers are accepted, then doubt has done good work. It’s when doubt becomes stubbornness and stubbornness becomes a way of life that doubt overrides faith.
Don’t settle into doubts. Move on from them to pose the question, get an answer, and push for a decision.
Losing something of great value or dealing with someone who conspires against you can elicit an angry response. Unfortunately, anger is a dangerous and destructive emotion that always threatens to leap out of control. It pushes you to make hasty decisions that result in bitterness and guilt.
There are times when anger is appropriate, but most often, it is futile. You will face countless opportunities in life to lose your temper, but making a conscious effort to channel your anger constructively is what incites change. When you feel like you’re ready to explode, remember that losing control will not solve the problem. It only fuels the fire.
You can either be part of the problem or part of the solution. Leading by example earns you the right to be heard because your actions reinforce what you speak.
Those closest to you often emulate what you do, so if you desire for someone to behave a certain way, don’t be the double standard.
Francis Bacon once remarked, “He that gives good advice builds with one hand; he that gives good counsel and example, builds with both; but he that gives good admonition and bad example, builds with one hand and pulls down the other.”
Fear is a dark shadow that envelops you and ultimately imprisons you within yourself. Fear becomes the expression of doubt and lack of self-confidence that gradually eats away at your motivation and paralyzes you so that you don’t act at all.
When you are fearful, you’ll continually look for visible signs. Signs are unnecessary if they only confirm what you already know to be true. Instead of looking for more confirmation, take action. Getting started is often the most frightening part of the task.
There is a Chinese Proverb that states: “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Revenge is an uncontrollable monster. Not only will it ruin your peace of mind, but it also increases the chances of future retaliation. If you applied the principle “an eye for an eye,” you stand the risk of fueling revenge that doesn’t offer finality to a problem.
While it’s necessary to punish those who break the law, a fair punishment weakens the revengeful nature and creates a systematic approach to handle similar threats. In essence, forgiveness can reduce the cycle of revenge. It takes more courage to lay aside hatred and hurt than to take justice into your own hands.
Proper delegation can multiply your effectiveness while allowing others to grow.
People in positions of responsibility sometimes feel they are the only ones who can perform necessary tasks when others are capable of handling part of the load.
Allow someone to prove their worthiness. If that requires you taking the time to train them in a specific area, then it’s well worth doing so to maximize performance.
Everyone makes mistakes.
How we handle them is what can make or break us.
Some people strongly resist when they are wrong.
Their initial reaction is to respond defensively rather than acknowledging the mistake, apologizing, and doing what they can to make things right.
There is a level of respect warranted for people who openly admit their mistakes and take ownership.
That doesn’t mean the people impacted by the mistake will always be overly gracious, but they can become more accepting over time.
Rather than compound a mistake through defensiveness, take corrective action and identify the lesson behind it.
It can save a lot of undue stress.
What’s your approach to dealing with mistakes?
Prayer is the first step in any venture.
Prayer is the key that unlocks faith in our lives.
When you pray, great things happen.
Prayer quiets your thoughts and emotions and prepares you to listen.
Too often, we pray superficially. Prayer, by contrast, requires concentration.
When you pray, difficult decisions fall into proper perspective. Therefore, pray for the wisdom to see it and the energy and motivation to do it.
When it seems your prayers have gone unanswered, what you need may already be within your reach, or you have yet to fulfill the responsibilities given to you.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Ecclesiastes 4:9 “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their work. When one falls down his friend can help him up, but pity the man who falls alone”.
We are not put on this earth to only serve ourselves. Life revolves around helping one another.
Working together allows each person to bring their unique skills or strengths to the table.
It may be our strengths that balance their weakness or their abilities that offset our deficiencies.
Our greatest accomplishment may be helping others accomplish great things.
Similarly, our greatest failure may be preventing others from achieving greatness.
Support is the backbone of any relationship – especially in these difficult times.
We need each other.
Do you agree?
Journaling can be one of the most significant things you do during your lifetime.
Whether jotting down information, ideas, or the details of your day, there are many benefits of keeping a journal.
It provides a place to store your personal experiences.
It helps slow down the thinking process.
It reveals thought patterns and offers new perspectives.
It makes a thought concrete.
It improves insight and understanding.
It unlocks creativity.
It increases your gratitude.
There’s no time like today to get started. The benefits are numerous.