Ever catch yourself thinking, “I’ll just handle it – it’s faster than explaining”? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us learned early on that more hours and bigger wins earn approval. Layer on workplace demands, cultural expectations, or family dynamics and suddenly your sense of worth is tied to doing it all.

Overachieving isn’t a strength. It’s a survival strategy dressed up as excellence. Behind the accolades often lurk:

• Resentment toward anyone who “doesn’t pull their weight”
• A growing disconnect from your own needs and boundaries
• Quiet burnout masked by relentless productivity

This is the inevitable cost of carrying loads that were never meant to be yours.

If you’ve ever said:

• “It’s just easier if I do it.”
• “They’re counting on me.”
• “I’ll rest after this next thing…”

You’re not just overworking. You’re over functioning. It’s like your engine being stuck in overdrive.

How to Step Back and Stay Centered

1. Spot Your Loop
   Write down the extra tasks you always pick up. Then ask yourself, “What am I avoiding by doing this?”
   Example: You’re the default meeting scribe because you worry key points will get lost.
   
2. Claim Your Lane
   Draw two columns: “My Role” vs. “Their Role.” Define your deliverables and theirs.
   Example: You book the venue; your colleague handles the agenda and materials.
   
3. Flip the Script
   Instead of micromanaging the execution:
   “You’ve got this. Let me know if you need a sounding board.”
   
4. Embrace the “Good Enough” Muscle
   Let the first draft stand. Focus on substance, not polish.
   Example: Resist fixing font sizes in a deck and focus on the message.

Overachieving isn’t noble. It’s numbing. And the moment you stop carrying what was never yours to hold, you make space for what only you can do.