When we hear statements like:

• “Why is this happening to me?”
• “This isn’t fair.”
• “This can’t be true.”
• “It shouldn’t be this way.”
• “Story of my life.”

It’s often a sign that someone’s perception or expectation is clashing with reality. In these moments, what options do we have?

As Maya Angelou wisely said:

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

The Lens of Perception

We view reality through a personal lens shaped by our beliefs, culture, religion, and experiences. This perception frequently drives our behavior.

However, when we rigidly cling to inflexible attitudes, we close our minds to possibilities and sometimes, to the truth itself.

The Power of Attitude

Self-defeating statements do nothing to alter the situation. They only deepen the pain of the experience. By shifting our attitude and embracing adaptability, we can open ourselves to constructive solutions and new perspectives.

Every challenge presents an opportunity to reshape our mindset. The choice is ours: Will we resist reality, or rise to meet it?