If you take an objective view of your mind, you’ll find that many thoughts drift through it.  When you feel certain emotions for no apparent reason, it stems from stray thoughts passing through that you may not have been consciously aware of.  Meditation is an effective way to clear the mind and gain focus.  There are many things you can focus on, various ways to meditate and no time restraints as to how long you do so.

It’s difficult to hear what needs to be said during the daily hustle and bustle of our lives.  Stepping back from the noise and activity allows us to listen humbly and quietly for guidance.  When you have something troubling you and desire to gain more clarity, say a prayer about the subject matter and meditate on it.  The answer may not come immediately, but meditating on it will help relax you and release negative energy within you.

Setting Standards


When you desire to perform at a certain level with someone you measure yourself against, you must first figure out how this became the best standard for you to follow, and what you may have to do to get where they are.

If this person had to lie, cheat and steal to acquire what they have, are you willing to adopt the same behaviors or identify with someone who outwardly appears to be at the same level, but did so through hard work and personal integrity?  They may both be packaged differently in perception, but one worked smarter in the long run and the other in a way that will have them looking over their shoulder for years to come.

Whatever choice you make, be sure to consider the long term effects of the standards you set for yourself.  Accomplishing a great feat in the wrong way can set you up for future failure.


Living in a developed country that has a system of order and plentiful resources, shields us of the reality that most of humanity faces. It’s not until you travel to a poverty stricken country and witness for yourself, the hunger, violence and disease that signifies a normal life for its inhabitants, that you realize the artificial world in which we live.
While some countries are rich in resources, the income derived from those resources, rarely reaches the poor. The inequalities prevalent in these countries include: unclean water, inadequate medical care, deadly viruses and limited education. Furthermore, the children in these countries are most affected; oftentimes succumbing to death due to hunger and malnutrition.
We have a moral obligation to be more appreciative of the opportunities and resources afforded us, while finding ways to give of ourselves for the greater good of humanity. “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” Martin Luther King, Jr.



Many people want to be leaders, but the majority of us are followers. We may be good followers in following a good leader, but no leader is perfect. Many people fail to realize that leadership can appear glamorous at times, but it is often lonely, thankless and sometimes filled with pressures to compromise your values and standards.

The essential quality of leadership is credibility. If people don’t trust you, they won’t follow you. The most effective followers understand their role and follow the ideas and beliefs of their leader. However, there is a difference between following an order in which you don’t agree and following one you know is wrong. It is never ethical to carry out a wrong act, no matter who gives you the order or what the consequences may be for not executing the order. If a leader goes against moral practices, you must be willing to stand alone.

Good leaders are created through a never ending process of education, training, experience and self-improvement. Those who lead best, lead by what they do, as well as by what they say. As we rise to leadership positions, our priorities should be finding productive ways to serve people versus our own praise, prestige and power. Although many seek recognition for their accomplishments through these channels, they are poor substitutes for the substance gained in serving someone other than ourselves.

Blaming Others

You cannot run away from yourself, so blaming others is worthless. You are responsible for your thoughts and actions, as well as what unfolds before you. As long as you blame others, you will continue making the same mistakes. It is not uncommon for us to shift the blame to someone else in an effort to avoid feelings of guilt. Unfortunately, this doesn’t solve the underlying issue. When you encounter trouble, take inventory of your attitude and behavior and see if that could be the source of the problem.


People tend to place greater value in the things they sacrifice for. In fact, many consider sacrifice a part of their daily regimen. Whether it’s obtaining a certain level of education, losing weight or winning a competition, the end result justifies the sacrifice made to achieve the desired outcome.

Although sacrifice may be inevitable, it isn’t always viewed in a positive light. Sometimes relationships are forfeited for an alternative that doesn’t appear to be any greater than what was left behind, or money is spent on luxury items that may not perform any better than those of a lesser cost. However, the person making the choice, feels the sacrifice is worth making.

As with everything else in life, there must be a balance with sacrifice. You may have to give up something today for a better tomorrow, but giving up everything that’s happy and good in your life can be taking it to the extreme. Our time on earth is short and we cannot take anything with us upon our departure. Therefore, don’t live a present life of misery for a future life you may not be able to enjoy. Ask yourself, what your true motivation is. Sacrificing for the wrong reasons, could be worse than no sacrifice at all.


Human knowledge is far from perfect so our brains are hard wired to look for cause and effect in the world. If one thing seems to happen before another, we may find ourselves linking them together to create superstition.

Almost every person in the world has one superstitious belief. Many people regard Friday 13th as an unlucky day, but the Universe doesn’t go on hiatus on this particular day. The mind is a powerful tool. What we focus our attention on expands and lends itself to the law of attraction. The law of attraction is more than a mystical belief; it is purposeful thought. Superstitions can put expectations in your mind that the law of attraction delivers on. Therefore, you can consciously choose positive thoughts and create empowering beliefs, or allow negative superstitions to give way to unlucky scenarios. Happy Friday!


Indirectly, stress is probably our number one killer. Not only does stress lead to health related issues, but stressing over something doesn’t always solve the problem. It’s important to evaluate your overall lifestyle when encountering significant stress. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. Some people have the ability to face monumental stress with relative ease, while others are overwhelmed by minor nuances. 

We may not be able to remove the stressors from our life, but we can find ways to reduce their affect through careful thought, prayer, rearranging of our priorities, discussion and good counsel. As the old adage goes “Manage your stress or your stress will manage you.”

Self Pity

Self pity is a self-destructive emotion that presents a warped sense of reality. Feelings of self pity typically arise out of specific situations. Emotionally, we are most vulnerable to self pity after a great effort or when faced with real physical needs. Feeling sorry for yourself and/or your circumstance doesn’t help the situation, it only dilutes the good you may be doing. Self pity is a perspective that can easily be changed. Once you acknowledge what you are dissatisfied with, it is your responsibility to work towards changing your predicament. You will experience a number of highs and lows throughout your lifetime. The goal is to get through the lows as quickly as possible and seek support if necessary to aide you through the process. Playing the victim causes you to lose sight of all you have to be grateful for and the fact that you have it better than someone else in the world. Remember, people are not as willing to help someone that is not taking necessary measures to help himself.  

“Self-pity will parch your attitudes, it will paralyze your abilities, and it will put off your achievements. It prohibits excellence and prevents expansion.” Anonymous


People are not born with good character and good character is not defined by one noble act. Building character is a lifelong process that requires strength, purpose, and action. It’s essentially the sum of your habits and what you take with you to eternity. Character is established by conscientious adherence to moral values, not by lofty rhetoric or good intentions. Character is revealed by your response to the unexpected and what you stand for when no one else is watching. 
Your character contributes to how you live your life. It either makes you happy or miserable based on your reaction to life’s experiences. In order to maintain consistency in character, you must remain aligned with your moral values; in spite of overwhelming pressures and temptations. It’s not uncommon to take action based on short term gain, but that often results in long term consequences. By remaining dedicated to ethical principles and having a genuine concern for others, you will attract loyal followers and create lasting success.

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